Make Sure Your Partner Knows
How to Support You Before Labour Starts
even if they’ve never been to a childbirth class!
The Birth Partner Guide
A calm, practical guide for the birth partner who wants to be steady, kind, and quietly incredible when it matters most.
You don’t want to manage
your partner during labour.
The hardest part of labour isn’t always the intensity. It’s being pulled into your thinking brain, while you’re in the midst of labour and actually need to stay in your flow. You don’t want to explain what’s happening, what a contraction means, or how they can help while you’re actively labouring.
And even the most loving partners often say:
“I didn’t know what to do.”
“I was scared of doing the wrong thing.”
“Everything was a blur.”
This guidebook exists so that doesn’t happen. And so you don’t feel the mental load of preparing your partner, explaining things, sending reels, podcasts, & blogs that they might open.
The Birth Partner Guide
walks your partner through labour
the way a doula would:
clearly, practically, and without overwhelm.
It prepares them to be:
Steady instead of panicked
Helpful instead of frozen
Actively involved instead of waiting for instructions
This is the guide you hand your partner so you can focus on labour, not teaching. It’s something you work through together beforehand, so when labour deepens, you’re not explaining, prompting, or managing; you’re moving through it as a team.
What Your Partner Will Learn
No fluff. No medical overload. Just real life support.
What the stages of labour actually look like in real life
How to support you during contractions (hands-on, practical support)
What to say (and what not to say) when labour gets intense
How to stay grounded when things change or feel overwhelming
How to advocate and support you when you need them most
How to make sure they take care of themselves while also supporting you!
With a prepared partner:
You don’t feel alone in labour
You’re supported without having to ask
Your partner understands what’s happening and stays steady
Hi, I’m Maddy!
Hey, I’m Maddy, a doula in Hobart Australia, mum of three, and the person who wrote this guide.
I’ve supported families through all kinds of births, and one thing is always true: when partners know what’s happening and how to help, birth feels very different. Calmer. More supported. Less lonely.
I’m especially passionate about helping partners show up fully, not frozen, confused, or hoping they’ll “figure it out.” That’s exactly why I created this guidebook: so your partner can know what to expect and what to do, long before labour begins, and so you can focus on you.
My goal is simple: help your partner show up steady, present, and ready so you don’t have to teach during labor.
